I think one of the hardest things to do is to be persistent in the face of frustration or set-backs. And those frustrations and set-backs can come in many forms relating to a job situation, relationship woes, or personal goals.
As you know I love and recommend a good read called “Succeed - How We Can Reach Our Goals” (by Heidi Halvorson) and in it is suggested that persistence is a mind-set that helps you deal more effectively with a steady stream of challenges and obstacles. Persistence is about a belief system that we have of ourselves and our abilities, and about what it takes to succeed.
Our personal belief system will literally make or break us sometimes.
But I got thinking about that, and sometimes even when we believe in ourselves - others don’t. So that in spite of our persistence, things don’t always work in our favor. We don’t get the job that we coveted, or the relationship falls apart, or we don’t lose the weight we keep hanging on to.
What are you suppose to do then? Give up?
Giving up is not personally in my DNA. Something tends to rise up within me and I keep going back and attacking the goal time and time again. Does it get draining? Absolutely. But I like to think I have stamina and the right attitude that allows me to keep at it. If I didn’t get something I wanted, or I lost a very important thing, I know that I’m going to be persistent in attacking the end goal in a different way because, I guess like John Wayne….I’ve got grit!
Now get this…..(according to Chapter 12), did you know that people who are persistent in the face of difficulty are far more likely to be successful than those who are less gritty? That’s encouraging.
What do you do if you feel like you don’t have grittiness?
Well, for one thing you can increase your grittiness by choosing the right goals - I know it seems ridiculous to suggest that you can have wrong goals, but you have to know your belief system and why you choose your particular goal so that in the long run it is easier to attain and you feel the success that often alludes you.
So I leave you with this. It is not that you lack the necessary ability to reach your goal, it’s how you look at the goal. And in the long run it takes good ol’ effort, planning and persistence to succeed - and it will do wonders for your grit.
This will be the last time I suggest it, but if you’re looking for a way to jumpstart your personal goals, you need to settle in and read this book. It’s good.