"There is incredible power in making your own choices.
You're free from the constraints of someone else's idea of how you should live healthy and lose weight. This independence sweeps away the victim mentality.
It's no longer society's fault that you can't find healthy food in a restaurant, your boss's responsibility that you can' eat healthy on the job, or your spouse's attitude that keeps you from exercise.
What stops many people from appreciating the power to choose is that with this power comes personal responsibility for the results of those choices. Taking control of your choices and accepting responsibility for their outcomes requires shifting from an external to an internal locus of control.
excerpts from "Coach Yourself Thin"
by Greg Hottinger & Michael Scholtz
excerpts from great book....."Coach Yourself Thin" by Greg Hottinger & Michael Scholtz
With an external locus of control, you tend to attribute what happens to you to things beyond your control; you blame other people, aspects of your personality or skills that you believe you cannot change, or just plain luck.
If you come up short on a project at work, you might say, "You never told me how to use that program. It's not my fault I didn't get my work done," or "Dang, I can't do this. I'm way too lazy to learn w to use that program."
With an internal locus of control, however, you focus on what is within your control and take responsibility for your own decisions and actions.
Revisiting the workplace scenario, if you don't meet expectations, you might say, "My skills just weren't as sharp as they needed to be, but I'll be ready next time," or "I'll come up with a better plan for managing my work time in he future." If you set a company record for sales, you would believe that it was because of your skill as a salesperson and accept the honor graciously.
As long as you relinquish control of your choices and responsibility for the results to something or someone else, you will only succeed when the circumstances are exactly right.
When you take back your power to choose your path and accept credit for the outcomes, you give yourself the opportunity for lasting success."